How to Talk to Your Bed Partner About Snoring

Another sleepless night thanks to the one that snores.

If youre one of the millions of people who cant sleep because of a bed partners snoring, you know how disruptive snoring is to your lifestyle. Youre tired and unproductive during the day. You feel frustrated and short-tempered. You doze off at work and maybe you even get sleepy when youre driving, making you unsafe at the wheel.

Your bed partners snoring problem has become your problem too. But what can you do about it? Your bed partner cant stop snoring on their own. Earplugs arent enough, and you dont want to sleep in a different room.

What do you do when your bed partner doesnt seem to understand that snoring is a big issue that needs to be addressed? It might help to consider the many reasons snorers fail to seek help, and try to understand what your snorer is feeling. The feelings surrounding a snoring problem can progress in stages, and snorers can have several emotions at the same time, such as:

  • Denial I dont snore! Denial is a common reaction when a snorer is first told about their problem. They cant believe that they snoreor, if they do, surely its not as bad as you describe. Theyre sleeping like a baby, after all.

    If your snorer is in denial, try showing them how bad it really is by recording their snoring. You can use a video recorder, your cell phone, or just record a voicemail by holding the phone up to their mouth.

    Presented with hard evidence, most snorers have to admit that they do have a problemwhich is always the first step toward finding a solution.

  • Embarrassment For some people its humiliating to think of themselves as a snorer. Assure your embarrassed bed partner that you know they cant help it, and that snoring does not diminish your feelings for them in any way. But because youre both affected, you need to work together to find a way to resolve the issue. Try to be supportive and sensitive to the feelings your partner may be working through. In time, your snorer may be ready to take the next stepfinding a solution.
  • Helplessness If youve lived with your bed partners snoring for a long while, you may have already tried many cures or other techniques to stop snoring. In fact, you may have tried so many things that didnt work that your snorer has lost hope of ever finding an answer. Before you resign yourself to a lifetime of sleepless nights, be sure your bed partner knows about all of the treatment options available.
  • Fear If your snorer has looked into potential medical treatments, they may be aware of surgeries such as laser-assisted Uvulapalatoplasty (LAUP) and Uvulopalatopharyngoplasty (UPPP) that involve removing or altering tissue at the back of the throatinvasive and painful options often requiring weeks of recovery time and pain management medications. Who could blame them for wanting to avoid surgery just to end their snoring?

Fortunately, for many snorers and their bed partners, theres a much simpler treatment.

The Pillar Procedure

Unlike other painful and invasive surgical procedures, the Pillar Procedure is a simple treatment that Dr. Aroesty can perform in a single short visit to our office in Mount ArlingtonNJ. During the Pillar Procedure, three tiny polyester implants are placed into the soft palate. These implants, together with the bodys natural fibrotic response, add structural support to, and stiffen the soft palate. This stiffening reduces or eliminates the tissue vibration and/or collapse that can cause snoring and obstructive sleep apnea (OSA).

The Pillar Procedure delivers results that are comparable to more aggressive surgeries without the significant pain and recovery time. In fact, most patients return to their normal diet and activities on the day of the procedure. Bed partner satisfaction with the reduction in snoring after the Pillar Procedure has been documented at 80% or higher.

Dr. Aroesty can determine whether your snorer is a good candidate for the Pillar Procedure. You can start alleviating your snorers fears by letting them know that theres an FDA-cleared, relatively painless, effective treatment for snoring that can be performed in a 20-minute office visit.

Snoring has plagued countless bed partners through the centuries, and until recently, there wasnt a simple, effective treatment for it. But now that medical science has provided an easy and effective option to treat snoring, you can give your snorer more than just complaintsyou can suggest a real answer to a better nights sleep!

Encourage your snorer to see Dr. Aroesty this week and ask about the Pillar Procedure.